Ineffable Ontological Detanglement .: Introspective Assistance & Mental Analysis Manual
Obligation over desire is most certainly perfect, perfect conditioning, there's nothing the west can say about it that is valid. However, from this, finding your identity in your role goes too far. It can stay an important part of your identity, the world doesn't need to take that away from you, but there is a you inside of that role somewhere, you can just acknowledge it that's fine everyone would be cool with that that's all you need to do.
"Yeah but... Yeah but... The implication of weak whimper in revealing this entire time I've been fully aware of how stupid and ridiculous I am." Oops. Well there you go I did it for you.
Harmony is survival, not niceness, is blatantly correct. You can't find fault in this cultural conditioning, shut up west. If you're nice you're nice, you do nice things and you feel them because you're a nice person. If you're not nice, you play along, everybody knows you're playing along, you're not being fake like somebody in the west being nice, everybody understands. You get to have both niceness and non-false image simultaneously.
Go ahead and shame people out of not maintaining, that's cool. Seems to be working just fine. Everyone just maintains. Is any of your angst over the fact that people expect you to behave and be competent? No I don't think it is.
If you're a woman you pretty much need to pretend to be an adorable dimwit. You'd... You'd be just fine if you didn't, you would, nobody would look down on you. But you know you pretty much need to pretend to be an adorable dimwit. The hard elegant force of the misogyny in your society. It's just, implied, nobody needs to enforce it. Nobody needs to make fun of the women for being dimwits because it's just implied that you're dimwits nobody's feeling anything towards it.
Women can be consciously comfortable with it, they think, they can get it about half way into their semi-conscious, it's never going to breach subconscious however the hard "I am to pretend to be comfortable with it" will easily go all the way subconscious. Your unconscious is blatantly uncomfortable with it, you all see it in your dreams. It's painfully obvious within your artistic expressions and sometimes day to day expressions that women often naturally find death fetish, half of us men clue into what we're seeing and know we can't get enough of it and rarely ever talk about it with anybody.
You are all deeply conditioned to think that you have the lowest crime rate in the world. You do not, the numbers are fixed, you only see high profile and something obviously went horribly wrong murders, you see very little theft and virtually no assault. Your crime rate is somewhere between Portugal and France.
Concealing your emotions can go both ways. I'm with you on cutting out being a big fat public American asshole. But, you are repressing, and it does leak. Subtle leaks, it's not too bad. I would say there are ways to release in certain engagements with the general public when you really need to that retain the barriers, make an angry face and gesture and Japanese sounding noise and walk away.
Speaking directly is not crude. You're being passive aggressive. Yeah no we don't like that one either we don't know how to get out of it.
All of your elegant fitting into place runs perfect. Runs perfectly smooth. Runs so perfectly smooth nobody's ever going to be able to challenge any of the little cracks within your society. You do it with Japanese elegance, behind the scenes. It's tricky.